We talk about patriarchy, good spiritual hygiene, dealing with a death-phobic society – specifically how to care for the dying when there are family members resisting – and so, so, so much more.
Cat's 2 cents: This was a super fun and interesting interview to do and touched upon many aspects of the mystical and deathy processes we will all face at some point.
Recently I got to spend some quality time with my awesome deathy colleagues at the Surrey Hospice Society's : The Beginning of a Conversation Event.
I was honoured to speak publically on the themes of Paranormal Palliative Perspectives and Psychopomp Workings... clickie the video... its about 27 min long ;)
This is the original presentation guideline for those who want to get fancy with it...
We currently facing a mental health epidemic in our society. As a result many end of life caregivers live in fear of speaking about extra sensory experiences.
Taking into account the generous spiritual teachings across cultures and throughout time we witness a sacred tapestry of DNA and story-lines carried through the generations. We witness that caretakers have always been the highly intuitive and compassionate threads that hold it all together.
We witness the normal interwoven with the paranormal.
By acknowledging the wisdom of the ages we can re-create healthy spaces for ourselves, our clients, and their families to feel safe, heard and understood.
∞ Cat Webb is a Spiritual Director, Artist, and Psychopomp. She specializes in facilitating authentic conversations regarding spiritual and psychological needs of patients, caregivers and families facing end of life matters.
Deep Gratitude for the Surrey Hospice Society for putting on such a great event... Especially Rebecca Smith and Tricia Keith for pulling it all together!!! Deeply honoured to be part of this magical and informative day!!!
Peace and Blessings
So back to the original situation posed by my colleague: how can we as a community of caregivers address death denial and death phobia in our culture?
I have observed over time that our larger society healing can come from unexpectedly small everyday interactions…
Death denial can be healed by how we create safe spaces for authenticity: *News Flash* People have feelings! Those feelings change as we engage in ever evolving situations, these are all very complicated things that are worth a talk, or several, even if it feels like the most awkward talk with the people you love and respect most. Please try.Read More
Before we can prescribe a cure we must first look at the pathology of illness. In doing so we clearly witness that death denial is built on the backbone of our entire way of life in NorthAmerica is fed by many hands…
Death denial is fed by Media: Think on the way we are only shown healthy, vibrant, vital, and youthful people on our TV programs, movies, and advertisements. Even in media where death shown it is usually hidden by gore or trauma or a big old white sheet, and periodically we witness an actor who looks very healthy on a ventilator close their eyes and then is suddenly gone and the machines beep and we all feel sad due the musical underscore. *And cut to commercial selling anti-aging cream .*Read More
Recently I saw a disturbing interaction go down in one of the online communities* I belong to… I have changed identifying details, as this is not my story to tell, but an example of something that I witness far too often in ‘communities’.
Frustrated by systemic death phobia an end of life caregiver attempts to authentically relate to their colleagues the following information:
Dear community, I care about and support my clients in their choices. I help them facilitate their wishes for promoting future health goals, even if I personally do not agree they will be effective due to the clients steady decline during hospice care. What I don’t understand is how we, as a society, let these kinds of situations get so out of control where everyone is so afraid to die that they will hold out for a miracle cure til the end… how can we as a community of caregivers address death denial and death phobia in our culture?Read More