Paranormal Palliative Perspectives

Recently I got to spend some quality time with my awesome deathy colleagues at the Surrey Hospice Society's : The Beginning of a Conversation Event.

I was honoured to speak publically on the themes of Paranormal Palliative Perspectives and Psychopomp Workings... clickie the video... its about 27 min long ;)


This is the original presentation guideline for those who want to get fancy with it... 

We currently facing a mental health epidemic in our society. As a result many end of life caregivers live in fear of speaking about extra sensory experiences. 
Taking into account the generous spiritual teachings across cultures and throughout time we witness a sacred tapestry of DNA and story-lines carried through the generations. We witness that caretakers have always been the highly intuitive and compassionate threads that hold it all together.  
We witness the normal interwoven with the paranormal.
By acknowledging the wisdom of the ages we can re-create healthy spaces for ourselves, our clients, and their families to feel safe, heard and understood.
∞ Cat Webb is a Spiritual Director, Artist, and Psychopomp. She specializes in facilitating authentic conversations regarding spiritual and psychological needs of patients, caregivers and families facing end of life matters.

AND...
My Lady Boss Biz Buddy  Joan Trinh Pham  AKA  The Modern Palmist   spoke as  a p anelist on the topic of embracing cultural diversity in the end of life journey and as a featured presenter on her investigative process for supporting folks at end of life with her   4 Question Foundation for Meaningful Conversations, Especially for Goals of Care + Care Planning conversations   AND... She also recorded me saying all the fancy words... plus helped me with my nail polish cause I am rubbish at that kind of stuff. ;)

My Lady Boss Biz Buddy Joan Trinh Pham AKA The Modern Palmist  spoke as  a panelist on the topic of embracing cultural diversity in the end of life journey and as a featured presenter on her investigative process for supporting folks at end of life with her 4 Question Foundation for Meaningful Conversations, Especially for Goals of Care + Care Planning conversations

AND... She also recorded me saying all the fancy words... plus helped me with my nail polish cause I am rubbish at that kind of stuff. ;)

I also got to spend some fabulous deathy chat time with Pashta MaryMoon from  CINDEA  while sharing an exhibitor table. 

I also got to spend some fabulous deathy chat time with Pashta MaryMoon from CINDEA while sharing an exhibitor table. 

Deep Gratitude for the Surrey Hospice Society for putting on such a great event... Especially Rebecca Smith and Tricia Keith for pulling it all together!!!  Deeply honoured to be part of this magical and informative day!!! 

Peace and Blessings
~Cat

Safe Spaces, Death Denial, and Simple Soul’utions Part 3 of 3

Safe Spaces, Death Denial, and Simple Soul’utions Part 3 of 3

So back to the original situation posed by my colleague: how can we as a community of caregivers address death denial and death phobia in our culture?  

I have observed over time that our larger society healing can come from unexpectedly small everyday interactions… 

Death denial can be healed by how we create safe spaces for authenticity: *News Flash* People have feelings!  Those feelings change as we engage in ever evolving situations, these are all very complicated things that are worth a talk, or several, even if it feels like the most awkward talk with the people you love and respect most. Please try. 

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Safe Spaces, Death Denial, and Simple Soul’utions Part 2 of 3

Safe Spaces, Death Denial, and Simple Soul’utions Part 2 of 3

Before we can prescribe a cure we must first look at the pathology of illness. In doing so we clearly witness that death denial is built on the backbone of our entire way of life in NorthAmerica is fed by many hands…

Death denial is fed by Media: Think on the way we are only shown healthy, vibrant, vital, and youthful people on our TV programs, movies, and advertisements. Even in media where death shown it is usually hidden by gore or trauma or a big old white sheet, and periodically we witness an actor who looks very healthy on a ventilator close their eyes and then is suddenly gone and the machines beep and we all feel sad due the musical underscore. *And cut to commercial selling anti-aging cream .*

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Safe Spaces, Death Denial, and Simple Soul’utions Part 1 of 3

Safe Spaces, Death Denial, and Simple Soul’utions Part 1 of 3

Recently I saw a disturbing interaction go down in one of the online communities* I belong to… I have changed identifying details, as this is not my story to tell, but an example of something that I witness far too often in ‘communities’.

Frustrated by systemic death phobia an end of life caregiver attempts to authentically relate to their colleagues the following information: 

Dear community, I care about and support my clients in their choices. I help them facilitate their wishes for promoting future health goals, even if I personally do not agree they will be effective due to the clients steady decline during hospice care. What I don’t understand is how we, as a society, let these kinds of situations get so out of control where everyone is so afraid to die that they will hold out for a miracle cure til the end… how can we as a community of caregivers address death denial and death phobia in our culture?

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Empathy and Suicidal Thoughts

Empathy and Suicidal Thoughts

As psychopomp and an empath, I frequently process/ feel/ experience emotions that are not mine.

In high school it was overwhelming. I was just coming into all this new energetic awareness and feeling quite crazy because at that time I still had no context for my psychopomp experiences. High school was a gold mine for ALL.THE.FEELINGS. Plus who honestly doesn’t feel like they are a giant freak and totally alone in that mob of teenage angst and hormone stuff.

In my particular case add in a mom in the psychiatric ward (who blamed me for her mental illness and the outcome of her life choices), and alcoholic raging father (who was either absent or totally inappropriate and abusive in his interactions with me). Add in an unusual spiritual calling that would not stop banging around in my head… the loneliness at times was almost suffocating, like drowning in a sea of people.

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